You’re definitely still learning. Making honest mistakes is important! If you weren’t making mistakes you wouldn’t be human. If you’re having a lot of trouble and feeling bad about it though, maybe you can ask coworkers for help or guidance?
You’ll figure everything out! You’re a competent, very very capable person!
But I do feel grateful for the daily challenges. It’s not the same thing day in day out. This is one of the things I’ve been looking for in an “ideal” job.
Today I started my pre-work learning stuff, since I’ll be teaching this year. I am so nervous! The institute has been good so far, but it’s starting to become more real that I will soon be in front of malleable minds very soon. I really don’t want to mess up, and I’m also scared I’ll get overwhelmed. I know that I can handle difficult things; I’ve worked in food service and customer service for most of my adult life, but I’ve been out of work since April and I just have no emotional endurance anymore.
But I am super glad that I do have a job, and I’ll finally be making adult money!
Can we include the topic of budgeting in this thread?
Because.
I’m following the 50-30-20 budget. And wow. I’m grateful that my parents still let me live with them because I still cannot afford to live on my own even having a full-time job at $15/hr.
But I’m sticking to my budget, and coming out the other end of the month with money left over.
I need to get out of my current job as soon as possible.
Incidentally, I am currently offering my services as a board game friend for the low low price of $500 a week just in case anyone wants to take me up on it
Hi all! I’m brand new to the forum, but just felt this is a good start for introduction I’m a vet tech working towards specialty licensure in both animal nutrient and rehab!
I felt the balimora guild placement was very fitting.
I’ve had an incredibly discouraging job search lately. Of the few interviews I’ve gotten I feel like I did well at many and got my hopes up only for them to pass on me. Anyone have any sage wisdom for someone burnt out both in job search and existing employment?
It may not be much solace, but it ended up taking me five years to find my current job (the regular job, not the quaremployment at the craft store). Ended up getting it from one of my “rage applications” after the mouse sent me a rather insulting/frustrating rejection email after finally calling me in for an interview.
Late, but: if you’re literally making applications 9-5 every day, schedule some time off. Take a mini vacation from applications, take a breather. This helped me.
Though I hope that this advice is useless by now, that you’ve found a position.
In other news: one of my favorite parts of my new job is talking to other secretaries
People apply to jobs as a 9 to 5? That’s both impressive and depressing. Fortunately I have stable income at the moment but I want to get out of it as soon as I can but I don’t have a degree or the time to invest in pursuing one so I suspect I’m being ignored a lot for that kind of thing…
Never worry about not having a degree. The way the job climate is right now experience is king, not a piece of paper that says you know things about something. I’m in a similar place to you, applying for jobs all the time, going to interviews and getting passed over, and I have a degree. Please trust me when I say it’s the companies, and not you or your lack of degree.
Edit: And yes, as someone that applies for jobs all day cause I don’t get any income unless I can say I look for jobs 30hours a week, and I can confirm that it’s depressing as hell.
I think I need to probably work on reframing that thought. After all, I’m getting interviews so I must have something they’re after. Stupid anxiety brain…
So three hours ago, I finished a hearing that was the culmination of two years of work. The stakes are high (well into the multi-hundred-million dollars). And yes, we’re not done yet.
But there are a couple of weeks right now where the pressure is decidedly off. And I simply don’t know what to do with myself. Yes, I have all sorts of projects and ideas and other stuff to focus on … but right now I have enough energy to be excited, but not to do anything about it.
It’s really a pretty weird and amazing feeling, sort of like walking out of your last exam in school. Horizons feel open, even if just temporarily—and if there’s one thing I’m learning here, it’s that those momentary feelings of magic are no less for being so short.
So as some of you might know, I’ve spent the last 2 years trying to get disability benefits. And I’ve not talked about it much because its embarrassing to admit you’re not capable of regular work, and a lot of the application process is frankly dehumanizing. But I figure you deserve an update. (TLDR at end)
1st things 1st, a rundown of how this (ideally) works in my province;
You, a disabled person, fill out a 11 page form outlining your work history, medical history, financial situation, and aspirations.
Your doctor fills out a 5 page form to confirm you are not the only person who thinks you’re disabled
The government reviews the paperwork, decides you’re disabled, and gives you money.
Unfortunately, for me it wasn’t that simple. After months of no news, I was told my diagnosis had gone missing. I had to be re-diagnosed. I got that done, developed a grudge against all the local psychiatrists, and then I got a letter from the government saying they wanted me to take some tests to make sure my disability (Autism) is as “severe” as I say it is. (I hate the whole high/low functioning thing but its the least of the indignities I’ve had to deal with) Said testing was to be preformed in a city 4 hours away, over the course of 2 days. Also they wouldn’t just tell me when they wanted me, but told me that i would be contacted by phone at a later date. They finally called 3 months later.
Testing was 2 full 8 hour days of IQ tests and questionnaires which were hard and humiliating, and then I was sent home with a cheerful “We’ll send you the report by the end of the year!” It was July.
It did take most of the rest of the year for the to send the results to me and then to the government.
The report said that I am, in fact autistic, and that it does seem to be a disability. It also included some suggestions for accommodations and programs to help me. I appreciated that, but it came back to bite me in the future. That concludes my 2020. Endless waiting, interrupted by stressful moments of proving to strangers that I am exactly as bad at life as I say I am.
I’m going to have to write my fiasco of a 2021 later today , as apparently this took forever and I have things to do, but in case you’re hoping for a tidy outcome in the next part; I am still working on it. I’m on my 3rd year of this and I’m exhausted but I have no other choice.
Okay part 2. Early 2021 I get a letter saying I’ve been rejected because my disability isn’t permanent enough, but that I can send them a letter proving otherwise if I want them to reconsider. Autism Spectrum Disorder is by definition permanent, and I said as much, and included 2 scientific studies where autistic people were monitored their whole life… And found to be autistic the entire time, as expected.
I was pretty confident about that. It was science! the government cant argue with science! Turns out they can.
In summer, I got another rejection letter. It said that while yes, autism is permanent in general, there was no proof that I, an individual could not become less disabled and cited the suggestions from my days long assessment the year before.
These suggestions were:
Try high fidelity earplugs
Find a therapist who specializes in autistic adults
ask for help finding a job
join a program for disabled job seekers
As suggestions from a doctor to maybe try, they’re not bad. But as proof I haven’t tried hard enough to cure myself? Pretty well impossible. I applied because I don’t have money. All of these “treatments” cost money. Also the nearest therapist of that description works in a city 6 hours away.
I say as much in my next appeal. In winter I get another package, and I get excited that maybe I can get benefits before Christmas and spoil my friends and family with my newfound income. No such luck.
“You say all these are inaccessible to you but that doesn’t matter. Our definition of disabled is “no treatments exist” and everything listed does exist.” Was the gist of this letter. I was refused on a technicality and boy was I mad. So I appealed a 3rd time. Because the government does not want to do this back and forth forever, the 3rd appeal is done in the form of a hearing, usually done in person, but I had to do mine over the phone because of The Plague. My hearing was scheduled for January and I set about preparing nice speeches, and scientific evidence, and everything I could find to help my case.
In January I got a phone call “We actually forgot to schedule your hearing, so we’re moving it to February.” Brilliant.
The hearing itself was stressful and formal and it drove me to tears, crying into the phone as these strangers. I felt horrible but hoped that id appealed to their humanity and demonstrated just how badly I needed those benefits.
That brings me to March of this year. The government acknowledges that I am disabled enough. But does not believe it is permanent enough because I said my life would improve if I had money, and because I graduated high school and was interested in becoming a nail tech.
“real” disabled people do not have their lives improved by access to resources, and are too pitiful to have any sort of aspirations, apparently.
I screamed, I cried, I thought my life was over - And then I started over again, because its the only thing I could do. I cant work - if I could I would have by now, and it would have been much less frustrating than this - But all I can do is send in a fresh application, painting myself in a more miserable light than before, and excluding the fact that I dream of ever having a career in anything. It doesn’t feel good. I didn’t lie or exaggerate, but putting all the worst parts of yourself on a peace of paper to be scrutinized by a bunch of “experts” set on denying money to anyone who isn’t desperate enough to fight for it? Its frankly degrading. I don’t have much hope this time around, but my application is better, and I’m running on pure spite. They’ve given me the run around for 2 years and I’m going to get every last penny i deserve out of them, if only to prove I’m capable of something.
Ugh. Applying for disability aid is the absolute worst. I could go on a whole entire rant about how messed up that system is. I’m not sure it’s a realistic possibility for you, but if it is, you could look into speaking to a disability lawyer? Some of that paperwork is super specific, and requires being filled out in really quirky, counterintuitive ways, and there are lawyers who specialize in navigating it. Unfortunately it may not be an option for you, as most lawyers still require, you know, money, (and it sucks because the people with the money aren’t the people who need the help, and that’s a whole seperate rant…) but if you can find one that’s willing to work with you pro bono, or a nonprofit that specializes in connecting people who need them to said lawyers, they may be able to help you navigate the bureaucracy of it all.
After hitting the three year mark at the craft store (and desperately not wanting that milestone), and not really getting anywhere on the “hey, how can I get more hours” front at the main job because I now cost too much for all the fill-in shifts I used to snag, I took the scheduler’s advice and started looking for a different second job.
Joke’s on them, I found something full-time, so now they are the second job.
It’s at one of the local TV stations, making sure things air when they’re supposed to. Still training, but starting to get to run commercial breaks with supervision rather than watching or tandem practice in a non-airing emergency server.
And it’s a four-day work week, so I have the ability to actually have days off without taking days off once in a while! Paid vacation is going to be a bizarre concept once I get to that point.
Still at the store for now, but I don’t have to worry about only getting a couple shifts here and there, because it’s now what I’m available for.