I don’t think therapists are suppose to make people more anxious. Probably not the best way to start off the first journal but it is the overriding thought for the day.
After reading everyone’s journals, I’m going to do mine wrong but it’s all just circling my brain and personal journals never seem substantial enough to make me feel like I’ve let it go so I’m going to share it.
I am me which isn’t the best description but it’s what I got. I’m genderfluid (pretty much in the closet with that except for on here and my boyfriend knowing), born female (don’t mind sticking with it, mostly because it’s easier and it works for me), most of the time I think of myself as nonbinary (I exist as myself and gender doesn’t really matter to me anyway), online and gaming is when my male thought process comes out as I feel more comfortable in that gender when I interact with others. All of that doesn’t really conform to what it defines as genderfluid but as most things in LGBTQ+ don’t conform to anything, I think I’m safe. I’m also bisexual (definitely out of the closet for that, I even wear a button that says “Biena” with a cartoon hyena under it) which I might as well throw into that mess of genderfluidity.
I’m also anxious constantly. I’ve lived with my anxiety for a long time so I have coping mechanisms that I think work better than most kinds of medications and when my anxiety attacks hit, I try to keep to myself as much as possible so that no one else gets in the crosshairs. There’s other things wrong with my brain, I would have to go to a licensed therapist to get diagnosed and well my anxiety and defense mechanisms prevent me from seeking one out plus white coat syndrome is not my friend. Also the one I was recommended by my nurse practioner had really bad reviews so definitely not going to that one.
The days that are the worst I feel phantom manacles around my ankles and wrists and chains keeping me tied. The very absolutely horrible days grant me the feeling of one around my neck, that’s the scariest one and the reason why tight necklines on shirts are bothersome. Although the best days see me smiling and laughing. The very absolutely wonderful days my anxiety and what ever else takes a back seat and I glide and I shine and I feel light. I would like to feel light all the time. My bracelets and tattoos remind me of what I love and enjoy and I use them to keep the manacles at bay.
I write, not as much as I should but when an idea is there and it’s clear I write it. I have unfinished stories waiting for an ending because it’s no longer clear, which is why when I get an idea for something short it has relief attached to the happy.
I’ve been on the forum since January 2020, I’m a lurker which a lot of us are but I’m one that has stints of major activity which means I get to be level 3 sometimes but most of the time I’m level 2. I found the magical ad on Facebook wanted to know what my guild was and took the test, got Ebengaurd the first time which was surprising for a Ravenclaw but I was happy with it, course I took it again and got Thornmouth Umbranor and as I ailgn better with those two, I stuck with them.
As I saw others writing fandoms and favorite things, Arthurian, Sherlock (bbc), The Magicians, Percy Jackson, Ranger’s Apprentice, Artemis Fowl, Star Trek, Star Wars (May the fourth be with you, live long and prosper) and tons more, not Twilight, vamps don’t sparkle. Favorite book is Night Circus and favorite series is The All Souls Trilogy (I figured considering most book geeks can’t pick favorites that there should be the exceptions to the rule to make it easier on the less-fiction-book-inclined people).
Finally to circle back on the first sentence, my therapist (master’s degree and not PhD so can’t help me by diagnosis) made me anxious and as I usually carry a 6 or 7 walking in upping me to 8.5 doesn’t do me any good. She had one good point but the overthinking after she made the point and moved on is what got to me. In theory, I would think therapy was helping me but as I have long standing and maybe slightly unhealthy coping mechanisms that she doesn’t even go into depth with, I’m pretty sure seeing her, giving her $100 and nothing changing is not helping. I don’t know🤷, as long as I stay away from majorly addictive substance as coping mechanisms, I should be fine, right?
Sorry for anyone who decides to read this entire thing, not a great introduction. As I have been brewing over this and editing it over the span of 12 hours (I was working, worrying, eating, and watching TV in between), I should probably post it…